'I stood in blizzard conditions': Guy abandons his girlfriend in a snowstorm, refuses to pick her up from work

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Jan 20, 2024 4:00 PM EST

Being someone's boyfriend does not necessarily mean picking them up from work during a snowstorm. There are certain times in life when it's every person for themselves, and this was clearly one of those times. The funniest part of the story here is that the girlfriend, who shared this post via Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole subreddit, showed her cards when she mentioned that there was near zero visibility during the storm. So honestly, was she really expecting him to drive in the middle of that? Sorry you had to commute, girl, but this one wasn't his fault.

In fact, as one person in the comments section below pointed out, if there is anyone at fault here, it is OP's employer. The degree of seriousness with this storm may have been unpredictable, but the minute it got bad, OP's boss should have started to arrange plans for an early end to the work day. At the very least, her boss could have let OP use her phone during work hours to coordinate with her boyfriend. 

OP's edits to her original post are also quite amusing here. People were pointing out other flaws in her relationship, and that clearly set her off. Keep scrolling below to have a look for yourself. When you're done, check out this post about some snowstorm revenge.

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  • 01
    "I was nothing short of livid"
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  • 02
    AITA for expecting my bf to pick me up from work during a snow storm? Edit for info: -We live in Southwest Ontario, Canada. He's been driving for 8 years, his car has winter tires and is in good working condition. -If I wanted to be put on as a secondary driver I'd have to talk to his dad about it and I'm quite shy when it comes to that
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  • 03
    -I work 9-6 as the closer of my classroom at a daycare, no choice to call in due to weather -The weather apps said "snowfall 5- 15 cm" which yes is significant but to Ontario residents is not any indication of needing alternate travel plans -the storm started at 3pm with 2- 4cm per hour and 70-80km/hr winds
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  • 04
    -I didn't dress more weather appropriately because when I left the house at 7am all I knew was that it was going to snow but it was Monday and he'd be there to get me -He doesn't get on his game until 10 or 11, after we've eaten dinner, watched some tv and spent time together. -Thanks for the relationship advice, but if I wanted it I would've posted on r/relationshipadvice
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  • 05
    -His ultimate reason for not coming to get me was safety and not wrecking car because we need it to move in 2 weeks, which leads to the fact that we're moving to a MUCH closer (8 bus stops) apartment soon and none of this will matter I didn't expect this to blow up like this and was really just posting to get my feels out so I didn't lash out at him because I can see his POV too
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  • 06
    Yesterday afternoon/evening we got hit with a wicked storm. Near zero visibility, plows couldn't get roads cleared fast enough, 20 minute commutes were taking over an hour.
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  • 07
    I have a license but no car, my bf has both. We live together. He doesn't work (rich dad), just sleeps until 3-4pm and plays video games all night after I go to bed. My work is a 20-25 minute drive, mostly highway. We have an agreement that he picks me up from work on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. I take the bus every morning and I bus home on Tuesdays and Thursdays. When I bus home he has dinner ready for me (just something frozen cooked in the oven). It's 3 different bus lines, takes about
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  • 08
    I'm not allowed my phone while I'm at work, so I get off at 5:30 to a bunch of texts from him about how Maps is estimating 51 mins for him to get to me and how awful it is out there so he isn't going to come. I was annoyed, but semi- understanding. He seemed apologetic and kept saying "I hope you don't hate me".
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  • 09
    I stood in blizzard conditions from 5:45 until 6:20 waiting for my first bus (scheduled to be there at 5:58). My legs were numb and covered in ice pellets (which then melted on the heated bus and made me soaking wet). With each connection I grew more and more irritated until I was nothing short of livid. For my last connection I was in the cold from 7:20 to 8:00. I didn't get home until 8:30. I ran myself a bubble bath, ate leftover pasta while in the bath and then went to bed. It took everythin
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  • 10
    Ok_Release7133. I'm confused... If it was "near zero visibility" then how was he supposed to drive? 12.9k ↓ Share
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  • 11
    panic_bread Right?! All these commenters saying he's the for not coming to get her must not drive and/or don't live in places that get massive snowstorms, because him driving to get her would have been DANGEROUS! It's maddening how many people are cavalier about getting behind the wheel in dangerous road conditions. 4.4k Share
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  • 12
    SDstartingOut I feel like this is a slight YTA. The way you describe this: Near zero visibility, plows couldn't get roads cleared fast enough I would not drive in this, period. It's pretty that with a storm going on at work, you aren't able to use your phone. But the way you are describing it - it doesn't sound safe for him to be driving at all. 5.6k Share
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  • 13
    coastalkid92. I think this is a case of NAH. Not sure what your workplace is like but when weather that severe begins, often times places make concessions for people to leave early. If the visibility was that bad, honestly it was probably safer and better for you to be on transit rather than in a passenger vehicle. It sounds like you two need to have a better discussion about what to do in weather incidents like this one, especially when you're reliant on him for rides. ✩ 4.0k Share
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  • 14
    earofjudgment. Soft YTA. It that you had to take the bus, but demanding that someone to come get you in dangerous driving conditions is not okay. Getting big mad about it it, and staying mad, is a little ridiculous. How would you feel if your bf had gone off the road into a ditch, and you still would have had to take the bus, only he could be in the hospital or worse? If you're irritated that your bf is generally useless and lazy, that's a whole other discussion. 2.1k Share
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  • 15
    DaleCoopersWife. the real AH here is your employer, who kept you on-site and unable to use your phones, when there was a dangerous storm. if the visibility really was that bad, then you're asking your BF to risk his life driving to pick you up. it's dangerous. it's not fair to him. you should've left your job early to get home safely. having a rich dad or him playing video games is irrelevant to the story. find a job where your employer treats you with respect and one that's much closer to where
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  • 16
    Darkweeper. So you expected him to risk his life when he shouldn't be driving and you had a way home? Also I see on here a lot that people don't want to bother to learn to drive or get a license but want to call other people because they won't cater to them. YTA. 700 Share
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  • 17
    Puerhitea NTA, the drive was "51 minutes", not, the drive was "impossible". I'd never leave my wife stranded because the drive was too long. If he didn't think his vehicle could make it I'd be a bit more understanding, but it sounds like he didn't want the hassle. I've driven in some conditions and almost all of them are mitigated by driving slow and careful. 572 Share
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  • 18
    panic_bread. YTA. In those conditions, one should only drive if it's an emergency. This wasn't an emergency and you had another way to get home. He made the right call. Other commenters are saying he should have left earlier, but no, when it's not safe, it's not safe at any speed. In a snowstorm, drivers should stay off the road!
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  • 19
    It's not his fault that you work a job that makes you come in during dangerous weather and doesn't let you communicate with loved ones even in a weather emergency. It's also not his fault that you don't drive. Rethink your working situation and find something better and closer to home.
    via u/BorderlineBarbie92
  • 20
    Also, you seem to have some resentment toward your boyfriend for not working. You should work through that and see if you want to continue being with him. It really seems like you don't respect him. 247 Share
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